“We are NEVER getting back together. Like, Ever.”
We’ve all had that day – You know the one I’m talking about. Hopefully we wait until we’re home before we kick off our shoes, sit down with a glass of wine and let the tears start to fall. Bad days, in any job, are inevitable. But if this is your evening more than 4 times a month, it’s time to have a really serious conversation with yourself.
- How often are you this unhappy?
- When you start to talk about your job, do your friends roll their eyes because all you’ve done for the last 6 months is complain about it?
- Why did you start this job in the first place?
- When you first started, and you remember loving what you were doing, why did you love it?
- What’s missing now that makes you hate it? – Is it a challenge, a better boss, better benefits, a good company, or what? If you don’t know what you’re searching for, you’ll never know it when you find it.
- What is the real root of the problem? – Is it that your personal life is bleeding in to your work life and you’re not performing up to standards? Is it that you don’t have the tools or support that you need to thrive in your current position? Is it a personality conflict? Is it that you hate the job that you’re doing? What ever it is, search out the root, not the symptom. Follow the path of “Why?” after every answer that you think you find until you get smacked with the epiphany you’re looking for. This process, by the way, could take a few weeks. Don’t rush it.
- How is your job dissatisfaction intruding on your personal life? – This is a big one. Just like how when there is turbulence in our personal life it can affect our job performance, the reverse is also true. You work 8 hours a day. The other 16, you’re something else, a whole new role with it’s own duties and responsibilities and perks. If you’re losing the other 16 in a bottle of wine, then you’re not really living anymore, are you?